The True North Collective Podcast
RUN IT SAM: AUTHENTIC SOCIAL MEDIA INFLUENCE S4:E1

RUN IT SAM: AUTHENTIC SOCIAL MEDIA INFLUENCE S4:E1

January 4, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we’re excited to kick off season 4 with Samantha Porter (aka Sam), avid runner, cycling instructor, Beachbody Coach, plant-based consumer, aspiring world traveler, Milwaukee influencer, and all-around awesome, down-to-earth humxn to talk about the intersection of authenticity and social media. As we step into a new year and start to watch the motivational content roll-in, we take a pause to consider the intention behind what we post. Plus, we talk psychic readings, listening to the pain in your body, feeling worthless, noticing the good, getting laid off, pouring into others, not hoarding your wisdom, using social media to help people, redefining success for yourself, staying present, waiting for the data to show up to make the next decisions vs forcing it, and making social media approachable. We love you, Sam!!

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. When things are feeling bleak, invite yourself to notice any good stuff around you. What lifts you up during your day? Take note of when and what lights you up, even if in the smallest ways and then prioritize those things again and again. Not to distract from reality. Not to avoid your feelings, but to ensure that you aren’t just losing sight of the bigger picture and sinking deeper and deeper into a perspective that might not be serving you and ultimately holding you back.
  2. Pay attention to where you find your sense of self-worth. Is it tied to a job? Your looks? Your relationships? Your athletic abilities? Your status? If your sense of self-worth is always tied to things outside of yourself then you will always live at the mercy of that thing, which you cannot truly control. Notice where that worth is and start to see if you can build your self-worth beyond that thing outside of you so that you can maybe start to feel good with or without it.
  3. Community help is an essential part of healing and becoming who we are meant to be. Where in your life can you allow someone to pour into you? Where in your life is it time to pour into someone else? We cannot and do not need to do this life alone. We DO need to be able to trust in ourselves and not put our happiness and healing into someone else’s hands, but we ARE meant to do this alongside other people and know we are NOT alone. 

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:10] Psychic readings + discernment
  • [6:15] Playing with the unknown
  • [13:00] AD: Shout out to SPIRE Fitness - the first rowing, cycling, TRX studio in Milwaukee, and where Jenell + Rachel first met!! Times are tough for small businesses, so we wanted to invite anyone who feels inspired to support this amazing studio + incredible community through gift card purchases,  class packages, social media follows. <3
  • [14:14] Welcome, Sam!
  • [18:00] Injury recovery + feeling worthless
  • [24:00] Finding the good
  • [27:00] Pouring into side hustles
  • [29:00] Getting laid off 
  • [31:00] Where is your sense of self-worth?
  • [34:30] AD: In 2021, we’re so excited to be offering live zoom workshops, every month, to support you in the journey of reconnecting to your TRUE NORTH. Join us on Jan 28th, as we kick-off the series with an INTENTION SETTING WORKSHOP - inviting you to reflect, unpack, + get clear on who you want to be + how you want to show up this year. Additionally, THE COLLECTIVE, our free community conversations on authenticity will now be held on the 3rd Thursday of the month. Learn more + sign up here.
  • [35:30] Pouring into self + others 
  • [36:00] Self-help vs community help
  • [38:00] You holding back is actually a disservice to the world
  • [41:00] Authentic social media influence
  • [48:00] Selling your struggles
  • [55:55] Social media connections CAN change your life forever
  • [1:01:00] Elevating the question marks
  • [1:04:00] Using social media as a diary
  • [1:07:15] Being overwhelmed by all the options
  • [1:10:00] Allowing the data to show up
  • [1:13:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH in 1 word?
  • [1:13:21] Connect with Sam via IG @runit_sam
SEASON 4: LET’S DO THIS!

SEASON 4: LET’S DO THIS!

December 28, 2020

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we’re excited to give you a teaser of what’s to come in Season 4 on THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE - for the podcast, for the community, for the year! We’re gonna shake some things up, introduce some new elements and we cannot wait to share it all with you here, first. We of course will be continuing to have amazing conversations with rad, everyday humxns who are fearlessly living their TRUE NORTH each week, and we are going to start to expand these conversations beyond just the podcast so that more people can inspire each other with their real, raw journeys, beyond just the platform of listening to this podcast. We talk about stewardship vs forcing outcomes, transition years, building community, celebrating the WIP (work-in-progress), intention setting and new workshops for 2021. Can’t wait to continue this journey with each of you - happy new year!

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Where can you allow a project you're working on, or a situation in your life, to unfold with you vs forcing it? Sometimes we try to over-control things and push things to where we want them to be vs allowing them to be what they are, which is a big disservice to the thing and to ourselves. What if instead, we allowed the project to tell us what it is ready for? What if we spent some time listening to where it wants to go vs trying to force it where we think it should go? What if we were stewards of a thing vs trying to master it into submission of our vision?
  2. The power of community is such a key part of becoming who you are. As we invite people into spaces to be who they truly are, we also invite ourselves in to show up as the realest version of ourselves. Being able to see just how similar we are and normalizing the process of being and becoming more of oneself is so much more fun alongside other fellow travelers. We highly recommend finding community support who can witness and walk alongside you as you live this life. And if you need a community, you are ALWAYS welcome here, just as you are. <3 
  3. We never get “there” and we never figure it all out. There is always more to learn and get curious about. Even when we are about to leave this lifetime, this body, there will be more left to learn, so enjoy the process of continuing to unpack and explore and connect and get curious, forever and ever. And better yet, find other people (like us!) who want to do it all with you!.

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:00] More conversations!
  • [1:30] New brand colors
  • [3:15] Being a steward to the unfolding
  • [4:20] Building community 
  • [6:35] This isn’t a podcast of experts
  • [7:15] Will we ever fully know who we are?
  • [9:50] Follow us on IG @thetruenorthcollective_, join our mailing list, reach out with ideas or suggestions on topics or if you wanna be a guest or know of people who would be great guests to talk about anything authenticity - we want to be connected to YOU!
SAFETY: FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH IN 2020 (PART 2) S3:E47

SAFETY: FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH IN 2020 (PART 2) S3:E47

December 27, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we continue our conversation to close out 2020 with part 2 of our reflection episode from Rachel + Jenell, co-creators and co-hosts of the TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE podcast. In part 1, we focused on Jenell’s biggest 2020 takeaways around loneliness, and this week we talk about Rachel’s biggest takeaway and learning from 2020 - cultivating inner safety. In this episode we discuss being able to experience life without getting rocked by it, cutting out what is no longer worker in your life, embodied trauma recovery + polyvagal theory, examining the parts of ourselves that are hard to look at, recovery + community help, saving yourself, and the power of conversation.

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. What in your life needs to fall away in order to continue to expand into who you truly are? Sometimes things can stay and be integrated while we shift and expand. Sometimes the things need to completely get cut out. It’s important to check-in with yourself to see which your heart truly needs right now because either option can be an unhealthy one or very healthy one, depending on where you are and what’s truly needed. Cutting bait before you’re ready might just be running away or it could be choosing yourself. Staying and figuring out how to make something work can be taking responsibility for your change or it could be controlling and manipulative or denying what is there that needs to be addressed. And no matter which you choose, for whichever reasons you choose, there is ALWAYS learnings and growth to be had. It’s all for you.
  2. Can you stand grounded in who you are, amidst the things going on around you? Can you be aware and present to what is here (no matter how messy or chaotic) and stay centered within yourself and who you want to be. Can you honor who you are, while you are honoring where other people are, even if the outcome is uncertain or the reactions are coming at you? Can you stay connected to you, regardless of what’s going on around you and choose from that place who you want to be within the broader experience you are having? This is an authentic coexistence.
  3. What if we could support people by being with them while they save themselves instead of being with them to try and fix something or trying to save them (or trying to get others to save us)? What if we were able to embody the energy of, “I know you’ve got you, you don’t need me, and I am here with you while you remember that you’ve got you. Cause I am not going to be the one who saves you. You are going to save you. And visa versa.”?

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:20] Experiencing life without being rocked by it
  • [2:45] A massive letting go to be able to continue your journey
  • [4:15] Cultivating safety in your body
  • [5:30] Somatic therapy + tools
  • [5:50] Living in survival mode
  • [7:00] Polyvagal Theory
  • [14:15] Quicksand
  • [16:00] Triggers
  • [21:40] Recovery + support groups
  • [23:18] Community help vs self-help
  • [24:35] AD: As you know, Rachel is a life coach, and to wrap up this crazy year, we’re excited to offer our TNC community an exclusive 10% off any/all life coaching packages/sessions purchased with Rachel between now + 1/31/21. Simply email rachel.unstuck@gmail.com + mention promo code TRUENORTHHOLIDAYS. <3 
  • [25:22] The judgment mirror
  • [28:25] Allowing people to save themselves
  • [30:00] Realities of expecting to be saved by others
  • [32:55] Noticing the fine nuances of life
  • [34:15] AD: If you are in the Milwaukee area, SPIRE fitness is offering a special TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE promotion for our listeners! You can purchase a 15-class package for the price of 10, simply go to their website or the mind-body app to get 5 free classes + get your sweat on!
  • [35:45] Grateful for our guests + these podcast conversations in contributing to our growth + expansion
  • [38:38] Season 4 teaser 
PRESENCE: PRE-RECORDED WORKSHOP + DISCUSSION (PART 2) S3:E46

PRESENCE: PRE-RECORDED WORKSHOP + DISCUSSION (PART 2) S3:E46

December 21, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we’re excited to bring PART 2 of our final 2020 free, pre-recorded workshop all about PRESENCE. If you haven’t listened to PART 1 yet, we highly recommend you start here and then come back with this follow-up conversation about presence, with our favorite life coach, Judy Dejno, CEO of THRIVE - a human development company. This episode is an open discussion about presence and authenticity, from the perspectives of 3 humxns learning how to be more present. We talk about the cycle of presence, embracing the suck, chasing happiness, fixing self vs embracing self, and presence in connection with others.

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. What if instead of running away, avoiding, or fighting the sucky times, we embraced them? What does that even mean to embrace the suck? To us it means, allowing it to be what it is without making meaning out of it and accepting it as a part of the reality you are living in so that you can take that into account as you choose your next step. If you don’t embrace it, then you are fighting it and it fights back. If you embrace it, maybe you can work with it and put energy towards new solutions that factor the suck into it vs using that same energy to try and hope and pretend that the suck isn’t there - when it clearly is. Also know that acceptance of the suck can take time and there is also a grieving process that might happen concurrently. Know that all of that is ok and nobody expects you to leapfrog your emotions if you aren’t ready to embrace something - but know that when you are ready, that option is always there for you.
  2. What are you chasing? Happiness? Success? Is it sustainable? What would be sustainable? What if the only truly sustainable thing was to sit with what is here right now, and now, and now? What if sustained happiness is not about chasing some future state, but in being able to sit with what is, in this moment? To embrace the fullness of life that’s happening right now in all its forms. To savor the moment for what it is. To lean into the depths and aliveness of this humxn experience that only exists right now? What do you think?
  3. What if personal development isn’t about fixing you, but instead it’s about learning to embrace EVERY SINGLE ASPECT of who you ACTUALLY are? Are you trying to grow and evolve to fix a perceived deficit or to be a different person? Or are you trying to expand the compassion and acceptance of yourself beyond just what feels comfortable? To embrace the wholeness of the imperfection that is who we all are. What if THAT is actually real personal development work? What if THAT is where the magic is?

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:30] The cycle + waves of life
  • [2:40] Embracing the suck 
  • [3:10] Sincerity
  • [4:30] Flow + sustainability
  • [6:20] Chasing good feelings, happiness, joy
  • [11:45] Writing a different kind of cover letter
  • [15:30] Choice
  • [18:00] Fixing you vs embracing you
  • [24:40] How does presence work when you’re in connection with others?
  • [29:00] Allowing another person’s discomfort without taking it on
  • [33:33] How are you living your TRUE NORTH?
  • [35:00] Contact Judy via email at judy@thrivehdc.com or check out upcoming THRIVE programs at THRIVEhdc.com
  • [35:41] AD: We’re excited to announce a new set of workshops around authenticity, going live monthly in 2021. If you have enjoyed these workshops or just want to dedicate more time unpacking your own authenticity alongside others doing the same, we’d love to have you join us! Make sure you are following us on IG + on our mailing list as that is where you can learn more about the workshops, some special promotions, and sign-up. We’ll see you there! 

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

PRESENCE: PRE-RECORDED WORKSHOP + DISCUSSION (PART 1) S3:E45

PRESENCE: PRE-RECORDED WORKSHOP + DISCUSSION (PART 1) S3:E45

December 14, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we’re excited to bring our final 2020 free, pre-recorded workshop all about PRESENCE. This is a 2-parter with our favorite life coach, Judy Dejno, CEO of THRIVE - a human development company. This first episode is the pre-recording of the actual workshop on PRESENCE, done in real-time so that you can follow along with us from the comfort of your own home. Part 2, next week, is an open discussion about presence and authenticity. So, find a comfortable + quiet space, print out the Presence Worksheet (below), grab your favorite drink, put on some gentle background music, maybe grab a few friends if you want to experience this alongside others, + get ready to connect inward so that you lean into what’s here, now.

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Presence isn’t about striving for peace. It is about recognizing where you are right now and being with the depth of what’s actually here without making it right, wrong, good, bad. Peace is almost a derivative of the ability to accept + lean into what is - right now, fully - not just the “good” stuff.
  2. When you are outside of yourself, you are actually cutting yourself off from your innate creativity. Being outside of yourself means that you are disconnected from yourself and more connected to something outside of yourself (disempowerment). Start to pay attention to when you are outside of yourself and what got you there. What is it like to be outside of yourself vs connected to yourself in the present moment? What are body sensation differences? What are the experiential differences? What are the voice differences? What are the behavior differences? What are the thought differences? Knowing your unique markers for being connected or outside of yourself can help you to know when you are outside of yourself and that you might not be tapping into your fullest creative potential.
  3. Reflection is such a powerful practice to keep learning about who we are and how our system works and what our unique experience is so we can read and understand ourselves better. There is no right or wrong way to reflect, simply allow judgment to settle away if you can and notice the data points that you see and how they trend over time. Notice what throws you off. Notice what is consistently present before, during, and after amazing experiences and not so amazing experiences. Reflection is an invitation to pause + thoughtfully and honestly gather information so you can learn about how you uniquely work.

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:40] Experiential workshop around Presence
  • [3:23] Welcome, Judy!
  • [5:50] AD: We’re excited to announce a new set of workshops around authenticity, going live monthly in 2021. If you have enjoyed these workshops or just want to dedicate more time unpacking your own authenticity alongside others doing the same, we’d love to have you join us! Make sure you are following us on IG + on our mailing list as that is where you can learn more about the workshops, some special promotions, and sign-up. We’ll see you there! 
  • [6:51] BEGIN PRESENCE WORKSHOP HERE
  • [24:35] AD: As you know, Rachel is a life coach, and to wrap up this crazy year, we’re excited to offer our TNC community an exclusive 10% off any/all life coaching packages/sessions purchased with Rachel between now + 1/31/21. Simply email rachel.unstuck@gmail.com + mention promo code TRUENORTHHOLIDAYS. <3 
  • [55:51] Email us if you wanna keep talking about presence + authenticity at hello@thetruenorthcollective.org!
  • [56:00] Contact Judy via email at judy@thrivehdc.com or check out upcoming THRIVE programs at THRIVEhdc.com
LONELINESS: FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH IN 2020 (PART 1) S3:E44

LONELINESS: FINDING YOUR TRUE NORTH IN 2020 (PART 1) S3:E44

December 7, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we start to wrap up 2020 with a reflection episode from Rachel + Jenell, co-creators and co-hosts of the TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE podcast. This is a two parter where we first focus on Jenell’s biggest take-away and learning from 2020 and then next week we will reveal Rachel’s biggest take-away and learning from 2020. In part 1, we talk about the sudden loss of pets and loved ones, the power of making your own mistakes, exploring how to address trauma in social situations, experiencing loneliness + a lack of connection to self + others, the power of community help, owning our shit, acknowledging elephants in the room, 

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. What if making mistakes is actually a gift to the world? When we make mistakes we allow ourselves to be humxn, to experience being fully humxn, and be fully expressed. Mistakes give us a chance to KNOW first-hand what it’s like to feel all that comes with making mistakes vs just having it be a concept in your mind. Making mistakes gives us more depth of understanding of what it’s like to be more fully humxn. When we have a deeper experiential understanding of being humxn, we can be more aware and available for others as they are also learning to be humxn. What lessons are lost when you avoid making mistakes?
  2. Where in your life are you allowing yourself to be fully seen? We talk about self-help, but there is so much power in community help that can be missed in our attempts to get all our needs met on our own and be so independent. Don’t get us wrong - that is absolutely important - and it’s also important to find groups of people where we can be fully expressed and witnessed as we are, as well as fully witness others do the same. There is a collective grounding when we can be who we are, and be with who others truly are, too, without trying to change or fix or avoid or rush past anything. Where can you slow down, self manage your own inner world, + acknowledge another humxn exactly as they are? Where can you find + embrace the communities that exist for you to be fully seen as you are?
  3. When you’re growing, there will eventually be a gap between how people expect to experience you from the way you used to be to the way you actually are now. It can be jarring, confusing, and frustrating to know that internally you are changed, but external environments still bring you back to your old ways so easily. This is normal and ok! Just keep showing up and practicing being the new you until it becomes your new default. And invite grace when you forget. Because you will - because you’re humxn. :) 

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:25] A good cry
  • [2:00] Clearing
  • [4:00] Power of ritual
  • [6:50] Acknowledging + honoring death
  • [11:00] When/how to bring up trauma in social situations
  • [13:50] What if making mistakes was actually a gift for yourself + others?
  • [17:15] Fully seeing + being fully seen
  • [19:00] Feeling like a burden on other people
  • [20:47] AD: As you know, Rachel is a life coach, and to wrap up this crazy year, we’re excited to offer our TNC community an exclusive 10% off any/all life coaching packages/sessions purchased with Rachel between now + 1/31/21. Simply email rachel.unstuck@gmail.com + mention promo code TRUENORTHHOLIDAYS. <3 
  • [21:47] Loneliness + vulnerability
  • [25:50] Lack of connection
  • [29:20] Numbing out
  • [32:40] Power of true community help
  • [36:00] Voice your authentic love to those around you
  • [37:30] Re-experiencing childhood environments + experiences
  • [40:10] Internally processing to influence the external world
  • [44:00] Being humxn is hard when the goal is only to be happy
  • [44:40] Own your shit
  • [49:40] AD: If you love listening to us each week, we would love it if you’d share us with a friend that you think might also love the content! Or leave us a review on iTunes, Apple Music or wherever you listen to us + help us grow this podcast + expand our reach!
  • [50:00] The elephant in the room + feeling like an outcast for being real
  • [52:54] INTERMISSION: Join us next week for part 2 of this conversation!
HARMONY: UNINTENTIONAL CURIOSITY (PART 1) S3:E43

HARMONY: UNINTENTIONAL CURIOSITY (PART 1) S3:E43

November 21, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we talk to Leena Zafary (she/her), fellow Human Potential Institute Coach-in-Training, co-founder of Mind Body + Soul Alignment Center, a Certified Bio-Accoustic Vocal Profiling Practitioner, established the Unani Remedies - a line of healing oils, a happily divorce mother of 3 amazing kids, and a self-proclaimed true creator at heart with big visions and dreams, and some bad habits, too. We talk about following your innate curiosities just because they are interesting, moving around, redefining + embodying love, having a near death experience (NDE), bio-acoustic methodology, coherence + bringing the body back in balance through sound, how frequency affects relationships, and the importance of understanding your own unique spectrum of experiences. Leena is a wealth of knowledge and we are excited to bring her back for PART 2 of this conversation where we (Jenell + Rachel) get our vocals analyzed and learn what anomalies exist that are keeping us in a state of imbalance and disharmony, so we can ultimately get back to center. 

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

**note: we had some technical difficulties with the audio of this episode, so heads up that it is not you, it’s US!

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. If you’re innately interested in something, then say yes and show up for it. It doesn’t matter if it goes anywhere or the why behind it. What matters is following the genuine curiosity for the thing. If it lights you up, then go for it and see what naturally unfolds. You may be surprised where it leads you.
  2. Love is a state of being that you cultivate within yourself. It’s a feeling that we each choose to experience and the experience is as unique as each of us. What does love feel like in your body? How do you perceive love within you? It’s not something that you experience from others, it’s something you tap into + create within yourself; it emanates from you. It’s a vibration that you connect with for yourself.
  3. Allow yourself the chance to experience all of life and understand your own spectrum of experiences so that you have a gauge for when you are in balance or out of balance. If you cannot tell where you stand or if you are centered or not, then you cannot accurately read situations or how to self-regulate or how to respond to others because everything is through a blurry lens that just feels confusing and uncertain. Start getting to know yourself simply by paying attention to what different states feel like in your body, for you, over time. 

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [0:01] AD: If you love listening to us each week, we would love it if you’d share us with a friend that you think might also love the content! Or leave us a review on iTunes, Apple Music or wherever you listen to us + help us grow this podcast + expand our reach!
  • [2:20] Steam rooms + essential oil facials
  • [7:00] Normalize being naked
  • [12:10] AD: Welcome to last THE COLLECTIVE of 2020 (12/3 @7pm CST)! This month we will chat live + reflect about the gift that has been 2020. Join us via zoom here or sign up to receive our newsletter to get details about this event + more. See you there!
  • [12:40] Welcome, Leena!
  • [15:50] Creating yourself
  • [18:00] Following genuine curiosity
  • [19:20] Moving to the States to escape a war at the age of 7
  • [21:40] A love for moving + bouncing around
  • [28:30] Savoring exactly where you’re at
  • [30:10] Raising kids that don’t fight
  • [32:10] Love as the secret sauce
  • [34:10] Making space + cherishing the people around you
  • [42:20] Experiencing love + trust within oneself
  • [44:00] Having a near death experience (NDE)
  • [50:50] AD: Jenell has launched a new youtube series called That Girl Got Ghosted - and episode 2 is now live! Think of it like the bachelorette meets ghost stories/haunted hotels.  If you wanna support her new venture, go check it out, like it, share it + show her some love. <3
  • [52:00] Bio-acoustic introduction 
  • [55:00] Vibrations made simple
  • [58:25] Ancient practices backed by science
  • [1:01:20] How frequency affects relationships
  • [1:06:00] Understanding your own states of balance + imbalance
  • [1:08:00] Viewing the world through an off-balance lens
  • [1:09:40] Bio-acoustic treatments
  • [1:14:00] Starting to gauge your own system + not denying the small cues that our body is giving to us before they snowball
  • [1:19:00] How frequency treatments work 
  • [1:22:30] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
  • [1:22:37] Reach out to Leena via email mbsalignmentcenter@gmail.com (updated website + workshops coming soon!)
SELF ADVOCACY: IS BIRTH CONTROL REALLY EMPOWERING? S3:E42

SELF ADVOCACY: IS BIRTH CONTROL REALLY EMPOWERING? S3:E42

November 14, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we talk to Dr. Emily Kirkwold (she/her), Pharmacist, Natural Family Planning Educator, speaker, wife, and mom. She loves having dance parties with her kids and is the host of Wholly a Woman Podcast. We talk about paying attention to our bodies natural cycles, sex drive, numbing our bodies out with synthetic birth control, normalizing female sex organs + fluids, opening up about what’s actually going on in our bodies, 4 natural markers of fertility, listening + building a better relationship with your body, having your period/ovulation synch up with the moon cycle, and choosing to empower yourself to get to know your body one part at a time. 

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. If you are doing something because you have been told it's the “right” thing to do (like take birth control) but you haven’t done your own research to ensure that is truly the right decision for you and your body, you may be doing more harm than good for yourself. General standards are there to support in lessening overwhelm and decision fatigue, however, when it comes at the expense of listening to ourselves and listening to what truly feels right for us, we are overriding our bodies to make our lives easier, potentially at the expense of our health. Where in your life can you do a little research to ensure that the decisions you are making are truly your decisions and not a societal default?
  2. Make the time to understand your body. It is doing incredible things to keep you alive and yet we so often take it for granted that it can just DO what we need it to do. With a little bit of awareness, we can actually become connected to when things are “off” for us and raise our hands before it gets too far down the path. Where in your life are you outsourcing your health to a doctor or a pill when you could be self-monitoring and self-advocating? Both are needed, but potentially we have become overly reliant on prioritizing outside sources/influence  and dismiss our first-hand experiences as real sources of knowledge.
  3. Self-advocate, self-advocate, self-advocate. No matter the response you get or any nay-sayers that might exist, give yourself permission to have a voice and speak that voice. Ask the questions, share your experience and truth, raise your hand, make sure you feel heard and understood so that your opinion and ideas are taken into account. Not everyone is exactly the same as you or each other, and so if you aren’t advocating for your unique experience, then who will?

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:00] Grand marshalling a Disney parade
  • [5:30] Road or trail running?
  • [8:30] AD: We’re excited to bring back Judy Dejno, CEO of THRIVE, to host our final workshop of 2020 - going live in December! These workshops are free and pre-recorded so you can listen and follow along at your leisure. Grab some friends, nice ambiance, a pen + paper, and you just as you are as we unpack Presence as it relates to living your TRUE NORTH. Check out all our workshop episodes here!
  • [9:00] Welcome, Emily!
  • [11:40] Getting on birth control at a young age 
  • [14:50] What are the other options besides birth control pill 
  • [19:10] How do you find out about Natural Family Planning?
  • [22:40] What is Natural Family Planning (or fertility awareness)?
  • [25:30] Normalizing femxle sex organs + fluids as beautiful + essential
  • [26:30] Numbing our body’s natural cycles 
  • [28:10] Knowing your options so you can make informed decisions
  • [29:10] Finally knowing what it feels like to be horny
  • [30:00] Is birth control really empowering?
  • [32:00] What are the side effects of birth control?
  • [35:30] 4 main markers/signs of fertility
  • [41:00] Building a better relationship with my body
  • [42:00] How to know if something is wrong + how do you self-advocate?
  • [42:55] AD: Did you know that we’re on YOUTUBE now?! With a year full of zooming, we thought it would be fun to show you our fun faces as we record. So, if you are more of a visual content lover, make sure to check us out on YOUTUBE. Enjoy!
  • [45:30] Getting reconnected to my body’s natural + consistent rhythm
  • [50:20] Getting the support you need
  • [52:00] Pre-menopause markers
  • [53:10] Does having your period line up with the moon mean anything?
  • [54:09] The difference between ovulation + your period 
  • [58:00] AD: We have big dreams to grow this podcast + community! If you love this space as much as we do, we’d love if you’d share this podcast, recommend it, leave a review and let people know what we are all creating over here in this small corner of the world. Thank you!
  • [56:30] Window of fertility
  • [1:04:50] Cervical fluid
  • [1:10:00] Panty liners vs pads vs tampons vs cups vs period underwear
  • [1:12:15] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
  • [1:12:36] Reach out to Emily via nfppharmecist.com or email emily@nfppharmesist.com + make sure to give her podcast a listen Wholly a Woman
PIVOTAL MOMENTS: SEEKING THE NO’S S3:E41

PIVOTAL MOMENTS: SEEKING THE NO’S S3:E41

November 9, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we talk to Jordan Mendoza (he/him), father of five, Training + Development Professional for Impulse Consulting, and the creator + host of Blaze Your Own Trail Podcast. We recently joined his community to share about living our true north and realized we wanted to share his story and all life has thrown his way. We talk about freestyle breakdancing, growing up in poverty, moving around a lot as a kid, seeking out the “no’s” in life, how sales relates to life, leaning into generational adversity, experiencing police profiling as a kid, being responsible for your own self-awareness, trust, pivotal moments + stories, almost dying several times, meeting a biological father in the Philippines, and learning from a 3rd world country. This beautiful and endearing soul has experienced lifetimes and is truly a beacon for sharing your stories as a way of bridging a connection to humxnity.  

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Instead of looking at rejection and “no’s” as the worst thing in the world, or proof of your valuelessness and lack of self-worth, what if you flipped it? What if a “no” was simply a data point that gives you more clarity around what someone doesn’t want and therefore now you are closer to what they DO want? What if no was an acronym for Next Opportunity and it was an invitation to dig deeper for understanding and nuance so that you might get closer to what is actually a yes? What if no wasn’t the endpoint, but instead the beginning?
  2. When’s the last time you actually asked someone how they were doing and honestly, truly listened? We so often autopilot the cordialities of life without much sincerity and with haste to move onto the next thing. Where in your life can you practice genuine curiosity with those around you and stop to pay attention to their words, body language, and energy. How are YOU today? No, really, how are you?
  3. You can be amazing and still make mistakes. You can make a ton of mistakes and still be amazing. There is power in realizing that being humxn is not about being 1-sided, but about being multifaceted and contrasting and complex. When we share the real stories of our lives with vulnerability and authentically (versus the perfectly curated versions), we can actually create optimism for the world. We can be a living example for others that it is ok to be exactly who you are and get through all that life throws at you and still blaze your own amazing trail in whatever way that means to you.

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:00] Go watch My Girl now, if you haven’t ever seen it!
  • [1:55] Swimming the South China Sea
  • [3:15] Breakdancing to break into a new school
  • [8:05] AD: Jenell has launched a new youtube series called That Girl Got Ghosted - whoo! Think of it like the bachelorette meets ghost stories/haunted hotels.  If you wanna support her new venture, go check it out, like it, share it + show her some love. <3
  • [9:00] Welcome, Jordan!
  • [10:00] Growing up poor as a springboard to learning how to communicate with people 
  • [11:15] Learning how to get rejected 
  • [13:30] Finding + seeking out the “no’s”
  • [16:50] 90% of sales is people buying into who YOU are
  • [20:40] Using generational adversity to build inner strength
  • [23:40] Experiencing police profiling + brutality as a kid
  • [28:30] Demanding more understanding + protocols around mental health conversations + support in the professional world + life
  • [32:30] What if?
  • [34:00] Self-awareness as an essential skill
  • [38:00] You can be amazing + you can be shitty 
  • [40:15] AD: We’re currently looking for everyday humxns to join us as guests for season 4 to talk about all things authenticity + living your TRUE NORTH! If you are interested or know of someone who you think would be perfect, please reach out via hello@thetruenorthcollective.org or IG - we’d love to connect!
  • [41:10] Always self-assess first when doing personality tests
  • [48:40] Trust 
  • [50:00] Mis-typing in Meyers-Briggs
  • [53:40] Self-assessments with younger generations
  • [54:50] Becoming the BEE MAN!
  • [58:00] AD: We have big dreams to grow this podcast + community! If you love this space as much as we do, we’d love if you’d share this podcast, recommend it, leave a review and let people know what we are all creating over here in this small corner of the world. Thank you!
  • [58:30] Pivotal moments + almost dying several times
  • [1:05:00] Meeting a biological father from the Philippines
  • [1:08:50] Learning about happiness from a 3rd world country
  • [1:13:00] The importance of sharing
  • [1:15:20] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
  • [1:15:36] Reach out to Jordan via IG @jordanjmendoza or find him on LinkedIn + make sure to give his podcast a listen Blaze Your Own Trail Podcast!
CHOICE: LIVING EACH DAY WITH PURPOSE S3:E40

CHOICE: LIVING EACH DAY WITH PURPOSE S3:E40

October 31, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we talk to Ryan Stanley (he/him), a life coach, co-creator of Teach me to Sell, lifelong entrepreneur, personal development trainer, former art/music manager, and a recent author of Be Patient, Be Present, Be Joyful. Ryan was a stranger we met from the internet whose energy we adored and we immediately knew we wanted to get a glimpse into his background to learn more about his seemingly endless optimism. From shady club owners to empowering conversations with young musicians, writing screenplays that allow you to meet Tom Marshall from Phish, how tech is evolving humxnity, living each day with purpose, being an A.D.D. entrepreneur, having fun with personal development, should-ing vs could-ing, and building a habit of growth, this episode unpacks and invites each of us to create our life from a place of purpose and choice in a super relatable and doable way. Enjoy!

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. When you get a hit of intuition to take a leap or a step that seems maybe random or disconnected from where you thought your life was heading, pause and listen, especially if it doesn’t go away. This seemingly fleeting idea might not be the ultimate clarity you were looking for, however, what if showing up for it led you down a path that actually got you closer to your clarity - maybe through a side door or an underground tunnel that you never knew existed. How might these seemingly random intuitions actually be invitations to trust and allow the magic of life to co-create with you for your benefit in ways you couldn’t imagine were possible. 
  2. We all have the capacity for every single humxn expression and experience. If we only focus on the ones that we think are “good” we will miss out on a depth of life that exists for us within the nuances of expressions that innately exist within and around us? What experiences are you avoiding that could actually give you life?
  3. The person you are today is NOT the same person you were yesterday, a week ago, a year ago, 10 years ago. And it’s NOT the same person you will be tomorrow, so to expect yourself to hold true to a purpose that was created by a version of yourself that no longer exists is almost holding yourself back or keeping yourself locked into a very small box instead of allowing your purpose to evolve over time with you, continuing to organically evolve as you do.

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:00] Who doesn’t wear sunglasses?!?!
  • [2:36] Sans deodorant
  • [4:10] Where in the world is Jenell?
  • [5:25] Welcome, Ryan!
  • [5:30] AD: Welcome to THE COLLECTIVE for November (11/5 @7pm CST), a live digital community conversation on authenticity - November is all about core desires + core fears via the Enneagram tool. Join us via zoom here or sign up to receive our newsletter to be the first to know about what we’re up to + how you can play with us. And if you’re looking to learn more about Enneagram prior to THE COLLECTIVE, have a listen to S3|E19 as some pre-work (totally optional). See you there!
  • [8:45] Empowering conversations with creatives + entrepreneurs
  • [13:00] Music, passions, + meeting Tom Marshall
  • [18:00] Following seemingly random hits of intuition
  • [21:30] Personal development buzz phrases + fluffy words
  • [27:00] What were previous generations having conversations about around life + authenticity?
  • [28:40] AD: We’re looking for some cool grandparents or great-grandparents to talk to with about authenticity! If you know one, please reach out via hello@thetruenorthcollective.org or IG - we’d love to connect with them for future episodes. And if you wanna check out a recent episode featuring a rad grandma, have a listen to S3|E38 with Barbara Larkin + her family about multi-generational wisdom on authenticity!
  • [32:13] We are all of it
  • [33:40] How technology has helped us evolve
  • [40:00] Being an A.D.D. entrepreneur
  • [43:00] Living each day with purpose
  • [49:50] Should-ing vs could-ing
  • [52:20] Is there a benefit to judgment?
  • [55:00] Choice + being humxn
  • [1:04:45] AD: We have big dreams to grow this podcast + community! If you love this space as much as we do, we’d love it if you’d share this podcast, recommend it, + leave a review and let people know what we are all creating over here in this small corner of the world. Thank you!
  • [1:05:00] The habit of growth takes practice + will probably hurt
  • [1:08:00] Growth as an immune system
  • [1:09:30] Be Patient, Be Present, Be Joyful
  • [1:10:00] Writing a book + creating your reality
  • [1:19:40] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
  • [1:20:00] Reach out to Ryan via his website ryanstanley.com or IG @rms_ryanstanley. If you want to purchase his book Be Patient, Be Present, Be Joyful, it comes with a complimentary coaching session!

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