The True North Collective Podcast
EMBRACING WEAKNESS: WHAT IF YOUR ‘BEST SELF’ IS BURIED WITHIN YOUR PERCEIVED +/or REAL WEAKNESSES? S4:E31

EMBRACING WEAKNESS: WHAT IF YOUR ‘BEST SELF’ IS BURIED WITHIN YOUR PERCEIVED +/or REAL WEAKNESSES? S4:E31

October 12, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we’re so excited to talk to Kenzie Weidman, a 27-year old finance professional + fitness entrepreneur from Wisconsin, working full-time at Robert W. Baird as an Experienced Advisor Recruiter, while also being the sole owner + lead instructor of Evolution Cycle Studio (EVO). Kenzie is a lover of fitness + is passionate about creating inclusive communities around movement in safe + judgment free environments. In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Compassion + pain + letting go 
  • Starting a studio + keeping your full time job
  • Power of having no plan
  • Bringing back humanity
  • Embracing our weaknesses
  • Internalizing positive feedback + compliments
  • Innovation through unlikely spaces + people
  • Mirror work
  • Body image 
  • Owning the complexities of your reality
  • Cycle of healing + growth
  • Friends of different ages
  • Being a beginner

Kenzie is a grounded magnet for those who are ready to start believing in themselves + loving where they are along the way. She has an uncanny ability to hold the beauty in the WIP + inspire you to keep showing up for you.  <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

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3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. The power of having no plan can sometimes be the most transformational influence. Where are you over-controlling your life + forcing your will when maybe releasing your grip could open you up to possibilities you never even dreamed of. Lots of times we cannot even think about what could show up + so sometimes we have to truly let go of our own visions to allow what we never could exist to show up.
  2. What if your highest potential self is actually buried within your weaknesses? What if the way through to who you want to be is by embracing the parts of you that you want to throw away? What if befriending ALL parts of yourself is the key to your life?
  3. You can love who you are + still want to improve on parts of yourself. It gets tricky when you feel like the only way to love yourself is to change aspects of yourself. You are always lovable. Period. The end. Wanting to change or evolve has nothing to do with how lovable you are. It has to do with who you want to be as you continue to love yourself in all of your layers + dynamics + contrast.

 

REWIRING YOUR BODY: WHO AM I REALLY?  (also it’s our 100th episode!!!) S4:E30

REWIRING YOUR BODY: WHO AM I REALLY? (also it’s our 100th episode!!!) S4:E30

September 27, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we’re so excited to talk to Nicole Lohse, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Feldenkrais Practitioner, and Yoga Teacher. She supports people in shifting out of survival + into flow through her 1:1 work + online programming. Her work is based on emphasizing that you are already whole + her knowledge of body, mind, + soul influences how she supports others from a very intuitive, energetic, + somatic place. Nicole walks us through how to be more connected with yourself by understanding the language of your body + your survival philosophy. By building your capacity + regulation at a nervous system level, your resiliency will increase. It’s from here that you’ll shift from surviving your way through life to thriving + accessing more of your truth. In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • A quick celebration for our 100th episode!!!
  • Learning to speak German while in a practicum to become a firefighter + smelly raft guides
  • Understanding your body’s linguistics + survival patterns
  • Movement as an IN to get to know yourself
  • Numbing out, overriding, distracting, + bypassing
  • Building capacity for activation + discomfort
  • Recognizing your wholeness
  • Feeling your emotions
  • Knowing your somatic experience of living your true north
  • Listening to the body as a more efficient + productive approach to life
  • Living the live experiment of life
  • How connection + relationship fit into somatic work
  • Putting support systems on pedastals

Nicole is the most beautiful grounding presence that innately invites a full-bodied exhale. Get ready to be soothed into essential self-inquiry about who you are through your body’s natural experience.  <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

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3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. There is an elegance to understanding yourself + who you are through the experience of being in your body.  Through movement + listening to our body nuances we can not only know who we are better, but we can change + heal. We live in a society that teaches us to numb out, override, + bypass our signals so that we can keep going at breakneck speeds, but it is actually quite harmful + can cause long-term damage when we ignore such a masterful + important information source in our bodies + felt sensations.
  2. This work can be a daily practice of building capacity on a smaller scale over time so that the BIG + SCARY stuff eventually doesn’t seem quite so BIG + SCARY as you build towards it. Start small by slowly sitting in smaller discomfort + situations, intentionally expanding the ability to hold scarier over time. 
  3. Explore what it feels like to access your truth states as much as you do your survival states. The more we practice being in those truth states, the easier they become to access in any given moment. We tend to spend so much time exploring the pain states, but rarely digging into the nuances of the somatic truth states + this can be a resource + powerful access point for us as we cultivate somatic literacy + healing within our bodies.
DISRUPTING DYNAMICS: ARE YOU OWNING YOUR? S4:E29

DISRUPTING DYNAMICS: ARE YOU OWNING YOUR? S4:E29

September 13, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we’re so excited to talk to Ashley Parker, founder of A Splash of Ash, who's made it her mission to inspire individuals to live their best lives while being their best selves. With her master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, she shares actionable mindset shifts to help you change your every day, which in turn will change your life. Check out A Splash of Ash Podcast on Apple + Spotify, as well as her blog, newsletter, + merch. And be sure to check out the episode where Ashley interviews THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE! In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Making friends through fitness
  • Soft, tender strength
  • Putting yourself in a box 
  • Judgment vs preference
  • Making things about you that aren’t about you
  • Holding the grey, disrupting old dynamics + having hard convos
  • Be who you want to be
  • Wrestling with our experiences
  • Owning your shit 

Ashley is relatable, down-to-earth, + will make you feel like you’ve been friends forever. Get comfortable, settle into your space, + enjoy this deep, yet light conversation about owning your shit.  <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Where have you created boxes for yourself that you may have outgrown? Where can you learn from the boxes you have created for yourself + start to expand beyond them? Where have there been boxes put on you that you can acknowledge + bust through? Where have you created communities around your boxes? You are not the boxes you have put yourself in, nor the boxes you have been put in. Keep learning + paying attention so that you can be bigger than these boxes.
  2. We are never always going to see eye to eye. We are going to have differences of perspective. We are going to want things to be different than others might want them to be. Having conversations when there is a difference of perspective is hard. Hard conversations are hard, but they’re essential + inevitable to build closer more understanding connections. You will learn so much about yourself + it will facilitate growth in all involved. 
  3. Our hard life experiences CAN become gifts when we gently +  truly sit with, wrestle, + look at them for what they are for us. Our experiences are invitations to take our lives back. Our situations can give us more range + an ability to sit with more of our own + the collective humxnity. If we force ourselves to simply believe that all our experiences are gifts, then we are just controlling + manipulating our reality. We must be willing to feel what comes with our life when we are ready to feel it + no sooner. And to seek help when we cannot do it alone. Then, we get to decide what our lives + our stories actually are, for us.
ADULT SEX ED: ARE YOU PRIORITIZING YOUR SELF-PLEASURE? S4:E28

ADULT SEX ED: ARE YOU PRIORITIZING YOUR SELF-PLEASURE? S4:E28

August 23, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we have our second conversation in a new series called ADULT SEX ED, where we talk about all the things we never learned in sex ed, now as adults! It’s awkward, playful, real, honest, + informative because we ALL deserve to get our sex questions answered in a way that feels empowering + pleasurable. We are honored to again speak with Joy Davis, Canadian-based creator of Full Moon Fertility, Anishinaabe (Ojibwe) FAM Educator, trained in the Justiisse Method, + Dr. Emily Kirkwold owner of NFP Pharmacist, NFP + cycle charting in the Marquette Method, to chat about all things masterbation + self-pleasure. This will be an ongoing conversation to normalize sex, pleasure, sexuality, bodies + their fluids, + so much more. DM us if there is a topic you want us to talk about in a future episode!  In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Stigma around masturbation
  • First self-led orgasm memories
  • Self-advocacy
  • Many ways to masturbate
  • Religion
  • Representation + complexity of the clitoris 
  • Your body is good
  • Pressure
  • Exposure to different types of bodies + confidence
  • Birth control + libido
  • Partners + masterbation
  • Toys, accessories, experimentation - just try stuff!
  • Educate yourself on butt stuff

Thank you, Joy + Emily, for being so open + giving in your perspectives + truths. We appreciate you both so much. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. How can you expect to have a pleasurable sexual experience with someone else if you don’t know how to have one with yourself? It is hugely important to understand our own bodies + how to take care of our needs in all ways so that we can self-advocate for ourselves with others. And we don’t have to wait until a certain age to start to live into this + talk about it + practice it.
  2. It is essential that we prioritize our own pleasure. Period. And if this feels tough, know it’s ok because we haven’t been taught to do this in mainstream western society. But we are each unique in how we experience pleasure + so we each deserve the chance to explore that for ourselves so we know how to feel good. It is highly recommended to create space for self-understanding mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically (including sex!). It may not be comfortable right away + that is totally ok, but don’t give up on yourself + your needs + your pleasure. Keep going, keep learning, keep advocating. It is worth it. Your body is good. Your pleasure is a good thing.
  3. Talking about sex + masturbation + our bodies + pleasure doesn’t make more people have MORE sex, it ensures that we are having healthy sex. NOT talking about it doesn’t lessen the amount we have sex, it just makes more people ashamed of doing it. And in reality, we are all already doing it, so let’s embrace it + learn about it + talk about it + enjoy it!
TRAUMA RECOVERY: HOW DO YOU START TO HAVE YOUR OWN BACK? S4:E27

TRAUMA RECOVERY: HOW DO YOU START TO HAVE YOUR OWN BACK? S4:E27

August 16, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we’re so excited to talk to Soheila Hakimi, a lifestyle content creator, self-taught photographer, travel writer, + mental health podcaster, born + raised in Toronto, Canada. Guided by her authenticity, Soheila focuses on connecting to her audience through vulnerable storytelling, engaging conversation, + beautiful photography. In 2019, after years of suffering from PTSD, depression, + anxiety, she opened up to her audience about her mental health struggles + created a podcast called Is That Soh Podcast, which aims to inspire, empower, + provide insights on various mental health + life topics so that others who are also struggling can find support + community. In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Big families
  • Self-reflection
  • Comparison + the downward spiral
  • Healing journey + finally remembering the truth
  • High functioning PTSD 
  • Rape culture + self-blame
  • Using social media to share your trauma 
  • Self-sabotage + having a good support system
  • Secrets, shame, + control
  • Self-compassion for your younger self
  • Share in safe spaces to empower self + others
  • Becoming who we want to be
  • Delaying the inevitable
  • Relapses
  • Power of language
  • Healing is painful + SO rewarding
  • Emotional hangover

Soheila is like the best friend you had growing up. She invites you in with her genuine laugh + makes you want to stay with her honest humxn generosity. This is an episode with some heavy content matter, so take care for yourself as you follow along on this journey of self-discovery. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

**TRIGGER WARNING: this episode includes topics surrounding sexual assault, harrassment, + suicide.

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3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. It’s ok to take the time you need to share your story with the world. It’s ok for it to take time to fully be able to see what has happened to you. Your body knows not to shock your system + so as you start to own who you truly are + the trauma that may be there, allow it to unfold intuitively. There’s no need to force it as that is just another survival mechanism. And in fact, it cannot be forced if you truly want to heal. Take your time. Take as much time as you need. With all the love in the world, you have permission to take the time you need for you to feel safe + ready.
  2. Where might you need to develop more self-compassion for your younger self and/or your current self? Where are you being super hard on yourself because you think you could’ve done better? Is that actually helping you to heal + do better now? No. Self-criticism is perpetuating the shame + the negative inner beliefs. Self-compassion is such a beautiful practice in learning how to sit with all the parts of yourself in a way that honors them + appreciates them for doing the best they could do at the time, even now.
  3. No matter how far you have come, there will ALWAYS be setbacks. That is life. We never arrive at some magical place where suddenly nothing bothers us, no mistakes happen, nothing triggers you. It’s gonna happen. It’s inevitable. So, knowing this, how can you care for yourself as you continue to grow + learn + heal + spring forward + double back + pick yourself back up, again + again + again? We’re humxn. This is what we are all learning to do every day. You are not alone.
QUANTUM POSSIBILITY: WHERE ARE YOU STUCK IN SAMENESS? S4:E26

QUANTUM POSSIBILITY: WHERE ARE YOU STUCK IN SAMENESS? S4:E26

August 9, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we’re so excited to talk to Zoya Flow (legally Tiff Cochran), a non-conformist who only uses the term since it seems most people need something to describe her. When people ask her who she is, she often simply says “Zoya.” She is gender non-conforming, uses the pronouns she/her/they/them, a grounded dreamer, focused explorer, meditative warrior, + creative thinker. She believes in mastering only what she must so she has space to taste more of life’s experiences, including being a certified healing artist focusing on herbalism, energy healing, reiki, divination, + meditation. She’s also the host of The Possibility Flow Podcast, a series of explorations to offer fellow explorers the opportunity to see topics from new perspectives to help them release their true selves in being + manifesting quantum possibilities. In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Trusting intuition
  • Listening to the wisdom of elders
  • Embracing the highs + lows
  • Staying in unhealthy relationships until we learn our lesson
  • Sovereignty
  • Polyamory, bisexuality, + freedom of expression
  • Love + conditioning
  • Internalizing lifestyle differences
  • Quantum possibility + non-conformity
  • Importance of relaxing
  • Cerebral vs embodied experiences
  • Being the master of your own creation
  • Pronouns + gender expression
  • Self-love CAN come from loving others first
  • Gender freedom

Zoya is a kind, genuine, non-linear, multi-dimensional being who makes it feel safe to explore the unexplored within yourself  + the world around you. Thank you for your time, space, + energy; you are welcome back ANYTIME!  <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Intuition isn’t just guidance towards the positive, it’s actually inner guidance along waves of ups + downs. This actually creates movement. If we were only guided towards the obvious “ups” then we would be stagnant. Instead, in order to keep the momentum, intuition actually sometimes guides you into what feels like a down because there is stuff to learn + grow through that part of the wave too + it keeps us moving on the wave + on our path. Where is your intuition guiding you today? Can you listen? Or are you forcing yourself to only listen when it feels “good” to you? What is that causing you to miss?
  2. Where have the labels in your life put unnecessary limits on your life? Sometimes having labels can acknowledge an aspect of yourself + its existence in the world. Sometimes the labels become a new cage with a new set of restrictions + expectations. It’s important that whether we utilize labels or not, that we allow each person to choose what works for them that allows them to feel the freest being who they are. And for each of us to be open to allowing that freedom of expression to exist as we get to know each individual + their unique preferences. 
  3. Embracing the idea of quantum possibility is acknowledging that there is always, always, always more than one way to experience or look at any given situation + this actually gives us the power to create. If we can allow ourselves to look beyond our current construct of should’s + shouldn’ts, there is an insane amount of iterations + options to consider for how to make the next move. And if this feels overwhelming, know that you can always narrow back down whenever you want, but that narrowing is a choice + not the ultimate truth. We are never actually stuck, we are just closed off to other possibilities. 
ADULT SEX ED: WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU HAD LEARNED ABOUT SEX + YOUR BODY? S4:E25

ADULT SEX ED: WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU HAD LEARNED ABOUT SEX + YOUR BODY? S4:E25

July 26, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we are introducing a new series called ADULT SEX ED, where we talk about all the things we never learned in sex ed, now as adults! It’s awkward, playful, real, honest, + informative because we ALL deserve to get our sex questions answered in a way that feels empowering + pleasurable. In today’s conversations, we are honored to speak with Joy Davis, creator of Full Moon Fertility, Anishinaabe (Ojibwe) FAM Educator, trained in the Justiisse Method, + Dr. Emily Kirkwold owner of NFP Pharmacist, NFP + cycle charting in the Marquette Method, to chat about all things sex ed. This will be an ongoing conversation to normalize sex, pleasure, sexuality, bodies + their fluids, + so much more. DM us if there is a topic you want us to talk about in a future episode!  In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Lack of information + conversations
  • Normalizing sexual development + body exploration
  • Doing your own work
  • Starting conversations about sex + bodies young
  • Sex in the media + inaccurate information
  • Consent + open communication
  • Introducing new types of sexual acts
  • Understanding yourself + your partner’s body + fertility cycles
  • Birth control

Thank you, Joy + Emily, for being so open + giving in your perspectives + truths. We appreciate you both so much. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Where are you avoiding conversations that are important because they aren’t “appropriate” or they’re uncomfortable? It’s most likely that if you have the question or thought that it exists outside of you, too. If it’s a safe space, then this is your permission slip to go for it + start the conversation. If it isn’t a safe space, then the invitation is to see if you can find spaces where you can have the conversation + then play with expanding the circle of influence as you get more comfortable owning your own truth about the topic. We all deserve to be heard + to hear real humxn experiences about life, sex, all of it.
  2. Understanding consent is more than just a yes or a no. It includes nuances around giving + receiving. It includes open communication + respect of both parties in understanding what roles each is playing + if both are ready + willing to play the roles of giver +/or receiver. This is a very important part of physical intimacy, but truly for all types of intimacy + connections.
  3. Do everything you can to understand your body. Period. Your body has SO much wisdom + can help you understand your overall health + vitality if you know your own baseline + what’s healthy + “normal” for you. Then when you understand your own body, you can better communicate with partners or doctors in order to advocate for yourself + explain why you might need certain things sometimes + other things other times. There is so much to explore, so start where you are drawn + then keep adding to your understanding over time. It is actually such a beautiful, inspiring, loving process.
UNIQUENESS: WHAT VERSION OF YOU IS REALLY YOU? S4:E24

UNIQUENESS: WHAT VERSION OF YOU IS REALLY YOU? S4:E24

July 19, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we are honored to speak with Chenise Monet, a friend of Jenell’s from SLO, recovering people pleaser, avid adventurer, serial hobbyist (surfing, wine tasting, wine making, snowboarding, baking, longboarding), tech nerd, mother to a beautiful on + fiddle leaf fig tree, perpetual student who loves spending time outdoors, observing people, traveling, + reading, in an attempt to better understand the world + what drives our behaviors.  In this episode, we wrestle with:

  • Vulnerability boundaries
  • Changing beliefs + values over time
  • Rebellion
  • Recovering codependency
  • Are you broken or just humxn?
  • Feeling unfit to be a mother
  • Embracing your uniqueness
  • Getting stuck in your identity
  • Projecting a critical self-view onto others
  • Attachment styles

Chenise is a wise, loving voice of authenticity. She will invite you to own wherever you’re at with a raw, calm, loving, + honest vulnerability. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. Are your current beliefs + values still serving you? Sometimes we never check in to ensure that our inner guidance system is still up to date for who we are practicing being today. We can carry a lot of old, default, programmed beliefs + it’s important to check-in on them from time to time + adjust, shift, revise, throw out, re-create as many times as we need to to ensure we are operating from our truest beliefs + values.
  2. If you are unsure you can do a thing or are worthy of doing a thing, ask yourself if that is an undeniable truth or if there is a way to do it anyway? If you really want a thing, then you must be willing to overcome the fear of unworthiness (or other fears) that might come with it. Most likely you will need to overcome feelings of unworthiness at times (maybe sometimes more than other times), regardless, so you might as well have those feelings while you do the thing you want to do + work at overcoming those feelings + proving them wrong in the process!
  3. Can you embrace your uniqueness as gifts to the world? What if the way you are IS the gift? And if that’s too far of a stretch, could you reflect on how your uniqueness might be a gift? It’s a cool practice to start to consider that the parts of you that might seem abnormal could potentially be magical + inspiring + wonderful. Because spoiler alert - they are! You just have to believe it + live into it.
UNPACK SUCCESS: WHAT ARE YOU LIVING FOR? S4:E23

UNPACK SUCCESS: WHAT ARE YOU LIVING FOR? S4:E23

July 12, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we have another installment of our UNPACK series where we bring on a mash-up of voices from across North America as fellow travelers with different perspectives to discuss a specific topic. Today’s episode is all about how we define success + unpacking all the aspects of this sentiment + statement + experience. We are excited to chat with TIna Ahn - a Canadian ray of sunshine + guest from earlier this year (S4|E7), Allison Forsyth - two-time Canadian Alpine Skiing Olympian, mother of 3, + all-around relatable badass, + David Jacobson (DJ) - inspiring Minneapolis-based connector, season 3 podcast guest (S3|E36), + bridge to much needed change in the world. We wrestle with externally defined success vs internally defined success, living in a box, fear-based thinking, internal pressure, avoiding “success”, the shifting definition of success, success as a mask for abuse + trauma, impact, simplicity, knowing what’s enough, co-creation, comparison, expectations, + experiencing as much life as possible. Thank you, TIna, Allison, + DJ for being so open + giving in your perspectives + truths. We appreciate you all so much. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

**TRIGGER WARNER: topics of sexual assault + abuse

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. You are allowed to redefine success as many times as you need to in your life so that it feels like your own definition of success. There are so many external influences that tell us what success is, but it’s actually as unique as each of us. It is actually an internal process that we must revisit again + again throughout our lives to ensure that what we are living for has been of our choosing. How do you define success today?
  2. Where has your need for success been at the expense of yourself or your health or your mental health or your relationships? Where has success become the scapegoat or the rationale for poor behaviors? What if success didn’t have to be in exchange for anything? What if success included the things we thought we had to sacrifice to get it? How THEN would you define success for yourself?
  3. What do you do when the current path that you are told is the path you need to be on doesn't feel like your right path anymore? This is an invitation to slow down + know that there are millions of versions of success + paths to take + we are in a time where there is an opportunity to carve out new models of new paths that we haven’t always seen as a collective society. Because the more we do it differently + authentically, the more the world has permission to do it differently + authentically + evolve from a single-focused way of life that we have lived into for far too long. So, it starts with you. You can do it. You’re not alone. 

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:20] Welcome, Tina!
  • [1:40] Welcome, Allison! 
  • [2:56] Welcome, David (aka DJ)!
  • [3:56] External definitions of success
  • [5:15] Success as a cringeworthy experience
  • [8:40] Fear-based thinking
  • [10:18] Internal pressure on self
  • [11:40] Avoiding “success”
  • [14:00] Being on a pedestal + never feeling like enough
  • [19:00] Athletics + success
  • [21:00] Western society’s need to be better + enough
  • [23:55] AD: Come play with us! We have been expanding the podcast concept by finding new ways + places where YOU can be more of an active participant in the conversation of finding + living your own TRUE NORTH. The COLLECTIVE is a free monthly conversation with people from all over the world (third Thurs of every month). Our monthly workshops explore a different facet of authenticity + are held the first Thurs of every month. Check it out here!  
  • [24:40] Success is a shifting definition based on the present moment
  • [26:30] Who are you without the thing you think you are? 
  • [33:00] Success as a mask for trauma + abuse
  • [39:00] Having to prove your value + worth
  • [44:20] Impact
  • [46:30] Simplicity 
  • [48:00] What is actually enough for me? 
  • [54:40] Co-creation
  • [56:30] Comparison
  • [59:00] Worrying what other people think + money success
  • [1:02:00] Success as growth + learning
  • [1:04:30] Expectations
  • [1:06:00] Experiencing as much life as possible
  • [1:08:00] Inherited legacy + evolutionary shifts
  • [1:15:00] Success attached to college degrees
  • [1:19:00] How do you successfully live your TRUE NORTH in 1 word?
NEURODIVERSITY: WHAT IF YOUR PERCEIVED FLAWS ARE ACTUALLY YOUR STRENGTHS? S4:E22

NEURODIVERSITY: WHAT IF YOUR PERCEIVED FLAWS ARE ACTUALLY YOUR STRENGTHS? S4:E22

July 5, 2021

Get ready for THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 4! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north. 

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we continue to celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

In today’s episode, we are honored to speak with Christina Chrowe, Canadian-born, Texas-raised hockey player, Canadian Registered Psychotherapist, entrepreneur, + relentless health advocate. She founded Dig a Little Deeper Psychotherapy + Counseling, a modern, self-managed, group practice with nine other psychotherapists + counselors. Christina maintains her own private practice, provides clinical supervision to graduate counseling interns, is currently a practicing therapist, + partners with local organizations to provide accessible + free psychotherapy services to some of our most vulnerable community members. And as part of her creative outlet, she creates entertaining tik tok videos about life with ADHD. We talk collectives, boundaries in the workplace, conscious organizations, developing employees as a way to increase retention vs fear-based control, failing faster, feeling like you already have to be a proven product of the thing you are trying to sell, the non-linear path of being mentally healthy, owning what you need, ADHD, to take medication or not, latent diagnoses, neurodiversity, honing your joy, + learning to be proud of who you are. Christina is a calming force of truth. Her presence literally will slow you down so you can truly sit with the essence of you + experience the gifts of all the aspects of who you are. <3

 

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  1. If something seems like too big of a hurdle or too much of a stretch, what if you could make it smaller? What if you could make it bite sized to the point where you could take a step vs feeling stuck? What would you be able to do today? What would be the 1 minute version? What would be the 1% version? What would be the 10 second version? Make it as small as you need to + then do that again + again + again as the pacing feels right to you. We all get overwhelmed sometimes, that is normal + ok. When you’re ready to move, try this + see if it makes everything a little bit more doable + maybe even more enjoyable!
  2. What if the things you’ve been criticized for are actually your strengths? What if the things that seem like they make you so different from others are actually the biggest gift that this world could ask for? What if you took the time to cultivate a loving relationship with these aspects of yourself? Who would you get to be for yourself + the world, then? How would it feel to embrace these parts of yourself vs reject them?
  3. Everyone is exactly in the place where they should be in figuring out their process. It can be easy to compare + assume that we are off based on what we’ve been told we should be doing, but this is a false truth. We each are here to learn non-linearly how to be ourselves + live as ourselves in whatever way that means to us. And to do it in a way that allows others to do the same for themselves. 

 

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

  • [1:30] Deep sea fishing
  • [3:40] Drinking champagne out of the Stanley Cup
  • [7:59] AD: If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any amount of time, you know Jenell is pretty obsessed with Whoop, a wearable that tracks your heart rate variability + gives a ton of in-depth data around recovery, strain, sleep. To get your first month of whoop free + a free whoop strap, use this link to sign-up or DM Jenell via IG @jaynelreese!
  • [8:54] Welcome, Christina!
  • [11:30] Benefits of a collective 
  • [16:00] Consciousness of organizations
  • [20:00] Developing people from a place of trust vs fear
  • [22:00] Innovation paradox + failing faster
  • [28:15] Owning your story while also being a mental health professional
  • [36:00] Advocating for self
  • [38:57] AD: Come play with us! We have been expanding the podcast concept by finding new ways + places where YOU can be more of an active participant in the conversation of finding + living your own TRUE NORTH. The COLLECTIVE is a free monthly conversation with people from all over the world (third Thurs of every month). Our monthly workshops explore a different facet of authenticity + are held the first Thurs of every month. Check it out here!
  • [39:57] Sharing my ADHD journey on Tik Tok
  • [44:00] Are the things you are criticized for actually your strengths? 
  • [45:30] To medicate or not? 
  • [51:30] Neurodiversity
  • [59:00] Life purpose
  • [1:04:00] Honing your joy
  • [1:09:00] Being exactly where you are, as you are
  • [1:12:45] How do you live your TRUE NORTH in 1 word?
  • [1:12:55] Connect with Christina via IG @digalittledeepertherapy or via website digalittledeeper.ca or via Tik Tok @stina905
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