The True North Collective Podcast

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Un-sugar-coated convos w/everyday humxns fearlessly finding + living their TRUE NORTH

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Thursday Apr 02, 2020

HOPING FOR THE WORST S3|E13

Thursday Apr 02, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE℠ PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti (she/her) and Jenell Riesner (she/her), this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north.

In our own search to discover and live from our TRUE NORTH, we continue to meet many interesting, courageous people from all walks of life, doing all sorts of amazing things to live life in their own unique way. Stories from all over the world. Stories with heart. Stories with grit. Stories with plot twists. Stories going untold - until now. This season, we celebrate these untold stories of everyday people who are fearlessly living their true north and inspiring each of us to do the same.

Today, we talk to Cain Rodriguez - lovable, funny, self-deprecating friend of Rachel’s, incredibly authentic human, playwright + director, most recently directing Dallas, The Remix Theatrical Project and upcoming Isolation Station with Caroline Cole, and information professional. We find the parallels in the creative process and life, dig into NOT sharing your stereotypical story, and connect on how a passion for boring things, allowing for unique interpretations, being given permission to fuck things up, and wasting time can lead to a life worth living.

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

**also note: this episode was recorded prior to any shelter-in-place or quarantine, for context around COVID-19 dialogue

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Walking Dead
Sundance Film Festival
Party Monster
Milwaukee Film Festival
Metropolis + Alloy Orchestra
Contact in the Desert
Flexible Grey Theater Company
In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act - Caroline Caldwell
Hilly Holsonback
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Friends can be the best accountability in encouraging you to keep going, keep doing it, even when you aren’t sure if you should. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed and want you to be the person you want to be so that when you falter they keep you honest and on your path.
Tell your story, not your stereotypical story. Share the things that make you feel alive and that you are interested in, not the things that you think you are supposed to share because of the things that have happened to you or what you were born into or the circumstances you have gone through (unless that is where you feel alive). Live your truth, not just what people might be expecting from you. It’s way more interesting when you are you and sharing your unique flavor of human because while we might look or seem the same because we come from similar backgrounds or experiences, we all have a unique story to share that is ours to share when we are ready.
It’s never too late to start. And in fact, it’s most likely that if you tried to start sooner than now it wouldn’t be what it was meant to be. Just get over the fact that you are too anything and just start creating the thing that is calling to you, do the thing that it’s time to start doing, be the person you are ready to be and trust that it was all the perfect timing for you to create the thing you were meant to create, now. Go!

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[3:00] How Rachel would survive a Zombie Apocalypse
[10:30] Warning to our listeners!
[12:00] COVID-19 early predictions (recorded in early March 2020)
[18:00] Introducing Cain!
[20:30] A passion for boring things, like media preservation
[23:00] Inaction + wasting my time
[27:00] Therapy + saying YES
[31:00] Allowing for interpretation + hoping for the worst possible scenario
[36:00] The parallels between the acting world + life
[45:00] Expectations around sharing your stereotype
[54:00] The creative process is a form of life
[59:00] How self-deprecation has allowed me to be who I am
[1:05:00] Putting yourself out there
[1:08:00] Don’t wait to begin - just go into your weird niche world and make shit and do it now!
[1:11:00] It’s never too late to start
[1:14:20] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:15:00] Don’t contact Cain, but if you really want to then contact him via IG @televisionblues

Thursday Mar 26, 2020

THEY/THEM: BEING DIFFERENT LIKE YOU S3|E12

Thursday Mar 26, 2020

Today, we talk to Jessie Nelson (they/them), Inclusivity Consultant focused on work from the lens of equity and inclusion in the pursuit of social justice. Jessie is the owner of Kith + Common, a diversity and inclusion consultancy, and they are an amazing human doing amazing things to move new and necessary conversations to the forefront of society that allow all humans to be seen, heard, and have a voice. We unpack self-exploration and radical self-acceptance as a way to accept those whom we deem different from ourselves, and how you do that through making mistakes and fucking it up along the way. We acknowledge self-oppression, societal marginalization, comparison, and colonization in the process of honoring the differences within and among us as we come together to make the world a significantly more inclusive place through diversity. This is a heavy hitter and an incredibly important, vulnerable, and impactful conversation.

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

What to do when you first start using they/them pronouns and you feel nervous or uncomfortable that you might mess it up or offend this person?
1. Pause + breathe into your belly.
2. Acknowledge that you are new at this.
3. Ask the person what pronoun they prefer to use for themselves.
4. Try it + know you will mess it up sometimes, but keep going.
5. Don’t apologize for saying the wrong thing as that forces the receiver to have to handle your emotions + make you feel better, which is actually more awkward.
6. Instead as you get it wrong, simply pause, correct + keep going.
7. Keep practicing.
The one thing we all have in common is that we are all different - every single one of us. And from this space, instead of alienating and rejecting and being afraid of what’s different, can we normalize “being different” as a universal trait and get curious about what makes each of us different to understand how we can come together and rally around our differences and find a place of equity for all of us? What could the world look like then? And by sharing our unique voice and our differences, we broaden the picture of humanity
You ARE going to fuck it up, you ARE going to get it wrong when you are first trying something new and when you are engaging in new language and new topics. And it’s ok. Keep going. Radically accept that you aren’t perfect and the only way to not fuck it up is to first fuck it up. Start the conversations and do your best and ask the dumb questions and keep practicing so you can do better each time. And keep getting curious even when you think you’ve got it because there is always, always, always more to learn, even when you think you are an expert.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[0:10] Behind the scenes snapshot of this episode
[4:00] You’re gonna fuck it up + it’s ok
[7:30] Weird accents + phrases
[12:25] Pogo sticking
[19:30] Introducing Jessie!
[23:00] The beginnings of Kith + Common
[24:00] Why they/them pronouns matter
[35:00] Diversity + inclusion work doesn’t have to be this MASSIVE undertaking - it starts with you + your work + your day to day habits
[37:00] Getting comfortable with the discomfort
[42:00] You belong to a group of people called YOU
[43:00] How to have a conversation around gender without offending
[48:00] Radical acceptance of self to radically accept others
[54:00] Comparison, self-oppression, self-marginalization vs self-exploration
[1:05:00] Marginalization - when we make one person’s voice represent an entire group of people
[1:11:00] Becoming a passive ally - how to be more inclusive in your everyday life
[1:19:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:20:00] Contact Jessie via website kithandcommon.ca or IG @kithandcommon + @jessiehutton

Friday Mar 20, 2020

COVID-19: TRUE NORTH IN QUARANTINE S3|E11

Friday Mar 20, 2020

Today, we talk COVID-19 and give a general update of our lives amidst this new world we are living in. It’s a really weird time out there and we’re all feeling all of it. So, we decided to record our experience living in this new reality of isolation, disruption, and confusion, while still attempting to be ourselves and live our TRUE NORTH. Here’s to stepping into the uncertainty and unknown together and remembering that we WILL figure this out in our own ways and we CAN find inspiration in the unexpected pivots of life. Remember, you are not alone in this and we love you as you are no matter what that looks like today.

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Breath live-streamed meditation
Streamed yoga classes with Emily
Spain fitness video
Sean Beiersdorfer
November Project
Life Wheel exercise
Artbaby.co
THRIVE life coaching - free 30-minute coaching
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

One of my favorite THRIVE concepts is that there is magic in disruption. And right now, we are totally living in disruption, as individuals and as a collective. The idea here is not that we jump right to the magical part of disruption, and rather that we invite a pause, a consideration, an invitation that there potentially could be magic in the big disruptions of life. When we can allow ourselves to truly be in the disruption and experience it for what it is, then we can accept this new normal and our part in it so that THEN we can look for magic, look for our next step that feels true for us within this new reality.
Connection can come in all shapes and sizes. We tend to only think of it as one person meeting in real life with another person, however, connection can come in digital form (duh!), between animals and humans, across balconies, within oneself, and in nature. The connection we feel to the thing bigger than us, to beauty, to creativity, to the vastness are all very valid forms of connection that we can dig into if we allow ourselves to go below the surface of only human to human live connections. Where do you actually experience connection in your days? It might be more places than you think.
When shit goes haywire and everything is thrown up into the air, you have a choice to put it all back where it was before, or to pause and choose to rearrange what is placed where within your life. Some things might get packed away. Some new things might get placed in the forefront. Some things may get thrown away or you might bring in totally new stuff. Allow the shake-up to be an invitation to allow the pieces to settle back into place differently.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[2:00] Taking it one day at a time
[4:00] Experiencing unexpected connection around the uncertainty alongside other humans
[6:30] Seeing businesses pivot to support humanity right now
[8:00] The gift in this disruption
[18:00] When the small things REALLY matter
[20:00] Self-care + non-self-care in quarantine
[30:00] Slowing down + being ok doing the best you can
[34:00] Impact of being represented in your physical environment + space
[43:50] How do you live your TRUE NORTH amidst disruption?

Friday Mar 13, 2020

PARTY.0: BECOMING UNSILENT S3|E10

Friday Mar 13, 2020

Welcome to THE TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE℠ PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti and Jenell Riesner, this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north.

Today, we talk to Jake White - Jenell’s college friend, speaker, creator, and founder of Party.0 - throwing sober house parties with students across the nation! We unpack standing in your own truth despite being surrounded by a very different culture, when seemingly harmless habits start to take away your freedom and your life and keeping silent about who you truly are so that you aren’t rejected (yet you end up rejecting your true self). We consider creating a life built around creating and having the things you want versus removing the things that are bad. And finally, how college drinking culture is shifting and the invitation to play with spirituality as a path to who you truly are.

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Party.0
Hammerschlagen
UW Oshkosh (aka sloshkosh)
Goop Lab
Alan Watts - The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so...
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

30% of college students don’t drink or do drugs - THAT’S ALMOST ⅓!! And we are shocked because no one is talking about it. What else are people hiding that might be WAY more normal than they have been led to believe? What have you been hiding that you are ready to own for yourself? Many times cultural norms keep us from sharing who we actually are, which keeps us silent and isolated. And it keeps us from potentially realizing that there is a decent-sized community of people that exist who feel like we do and have a shared experience. Give yourself permission to share our truth, you might be surprised by the community that already exists and wants to show up with you.
Recognizing where you’re using shortcuts to experiencing the things you want can help you actually build the skill set needed to have those things more readily available in your life. If you want, say, connection, to have fun, cope with stress, try something new, but you are using something to help you get there (like drugs or alcohol or pretending to be someone else or even fashion/make-up, etc) then you are robbing yourself of the chance to learn the skills of creating what you want to have, without having to rely on a crutch. You are robbing yourself of the joy, the rush, the novelty, and the thrill of truly figuring out how to live life purely as you, on your own, without relying on something outside of yourself.
Spirituality can be a huge support in connecting mind, energy, body to the bigger picture of life, to the life force that exists beyond us. When we are unsure of how to trust in ourselves or know what to do or how to be true to ourselves, we can invite ourselves to tap into universal life energy (or Universe or God or whatever you call it) to gain more insight and wisdom about how we make our next move. It is a co-creation process between ourselves and what lies beyond all of us. Between us as individual energy sources and the larger energy source that exists and remains and keeps going when all are gone. What else is there that allows life to happen? What more is out there beyond ourselves that can support us in creating the life we want?

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[1:00] Rachel almost hoarks
[2:50] Hitchhiking + close calls
[9:30] Introducing Jake!
[12:23] Seeing family members struggling with addiction
[18:00] Why ARE you drinking?
[23:30] Being sober + FUN!
[27:00] Short-cuts vs. skillsets
[34:00] Making alcohol the scapegoat for poor choices
[42:00] What does a sober party look like?
[52:00] Find yourself a hype person
[1:05:00] How college drinking culture is shifting
[1:07:00] Habits, compulsions, addictions - recognizing when seemingly harmless habits become harmful coping mechanisms
[1:15:00] Spirituality + spiritual wellness
[1:20:00] Allowing everyone’s truth to arise
[1:27:00] You cannot know the “right” answer
[1:33:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:33:30] Contact Jake via party0.org via IG @party.0 or highschool/middle school platform via IG @vive18

Friday Mar 06, 2020

SHAKE ‘n BAKE: EMBRACING PASSIONS AS A WAY TO STAY CONNECTED TO SELF + LIFE S3|E9

Friday Mar 06, 2020

Today, we talk to Lee McClendon IV, an old friend of ours from Milwaukee who has developed a passion and giant love for coffee. We have always been inspired by his persistent passion for coffee and how that passion has helped him to stay present and true to himself and connected to the world around him. We unpack passions, habits and if it’s possible to be too happy, and how passions connect us. This beautiful soul has an innate joy for life that is both calming and so contagious. He once decided to up and move across the country with only what he could carry on his back, hopped on a train and then kept moving around following his heart wherever it led him. He is currently in Austin, TX, trademarking new coffee recipes, learning about the coffee trade, and spreading cheer wherever he goes. We hope you enjoy this sweet episode and are inspired to reconnect with what you love, no matter what that is. Shake ‘n bake!

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

There are always going to be tough times, and you have a choice around how you experience those times. You can let them take you down or you can choose to shake it off, pick yourself back up, and keep on moving. And sometimes having a mantra to pull you through can help remind you of who you want to be. We love Lee’s mantra – SHAKE ‘N BAKE – and invite you to try it out or find one that works for you as a reminder of who you want to be along your journey of life.

Sometimes big change (like moving across the country) can seem overwhelming and scary and maybe even impossible, however, you can actually practice building confidence around change in smaller ways. Try changing smaller things, notice how it feels, celebrate the fact that you did it, and remember what allowed you to be able to take action. Then, start going bigger and bigger as you build confidence in yourself.
Passions are connectors. They have an innate ability to connect us to ourselves, to each other, to new people, to confidence, to creativity, to life. Allowing ourselves to embrace our passions can give us a chance to not only feel joy in doing the thing but also experience the depth of a thing, the breadth of a thing, the art of a thing, the nuances, the quirks, the subtleties that actually mimic life. And when we can experience them with our passions, we can translate that same approach to life and experience life in whole new, deep, expansive, subtle ways.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[2:00] Bad karaoke
[6:00] Dunkin Donuts for life!
[9:00] Introducing Lee
[12:30] Living with optimism
[14:30] Starting over
[21:00] Being nomadic as a way to learn to handle change
[23:30] Coffee + passions as connectors
[38:00] Appreciating the depth of your passions – the origins, the art, the journey
[44:00] Coffee as a catalyst for change
[50:00] Monetizing your passions
[55:00] Allowing your relationship with your passions to change and evolve and ebb and flow and go away and come back and reinvent themselves
[1:00:00] What did you use to do for fun as a kid?
[1:03:00] Finding grounding anchors as you take big life leaps
[1:08:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:08:30] Contact Lee via IG @coffee_cheers

Thursday Feb 27, 2020

QUESTIONING THE LABELS WE LIVE IN S3|E8

Thursday Feb 27, 2020

Welcome to the TRUE NORTH COLLECTIVE PODCAST: SEASON 3! With co-hosts Rachel Bellotti and Jenell Riesner, this is a gathering of un-sugar-coated conversations celebrating the untold stories of everyday people fearlessly finding and living their true north.

Today, we talk to Joaquin Torres-Maryea, a dear friend of Jenell’s who worked with her on the MindBody Leadership + Development team. We unpack labels. Labels that we put on ourselves and others, feeling alone in our labels, how to live without labels, and unlearning and relearning who we actually are versus what society asks us to be. Plus, so many amazing nuggets around dancing and movement, the sweetness of silence and sitting in the discomfort of life, taking the easy way out, and the stories we live into.

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Tate Donovan
Friends
Sense8
DISC assessment
Brene Brown
Wherever you go, there you are by Jon Kabat Zinn
Marianne Williamson
RuPaul
H.P. Blavatsky
CC Music Factory
Hanson
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

The gift of slowing down, sitting in silence, and noticing the seemingly mundane moments and things around you can create a freshness, a beauty, a new perspective in life that isn’t really possible when we are constantly moving and keeping busy and staying distracted. And the more you can do this, the more you are actually YOU.
Labels absolutely serve a purpose; they are entirely good or bad. However, if you as a person can no longer be authentic because of a certain label in society or in your own household, it can be damaging because now we are hiding certain parts of ourselves from the world and ourselves. To shift this, we have to start to show up fully for ourselves first, and maybe eventually for the world.
Our body has a TON of wisdom and movement is a way to tap into soul guidance and innate, somatic awareness. It connects you to something magical and spiritual within and beyond this perceived reality. It’s a language that speaks beyond words and emotions into something life knowing. By moving we can tap into that innate life force/energy and get us trusting and listening and experiencing and living in our bodies and out of our heads.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[1:40] Jenell reaches a new low!
[5:00] Introducing, Joaquin! ...and nicknames for Joaquin
[11:00] A short story about a girl who hates silence
[13:30] Standing naked in front of a mirror + sitting in discomfort
[19:00] Making Jenell smile + first impressions
[24:30] Are you your social labels?
[33:00] Unlearning
[43:00] Owning the labels that we put on ourselves
[57:00] Finding a partner who's a friend (aka has a core self that you find valuable as-is)
[1:01:00] Freedom + fluidity with love
[1:06:00] What if we grew up in a society where we were truly free to date anyone?
[1:12:00] Power of interdependence
[1:15:00] Ultimate acceptance: we are all just trying to walk each other home
[1:25:00] Moment by moment self-actualization
[1:30:00] How dance + movement fits into finding + being yourself
[1:48:30] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:49:20] Contact Joaquin via IG @joaquin_a_tm

Friday Feb 21, 2020

EGYPT: FUELING SELF-DISCOVERY THRU ANCIENT CIVILIZATION S3|E7

Friday Feb 21, 2020

Today, we talk about Rachel’s epic two-week trip to Egypt and unpack what made it “life-changing”. We consider ancient civilizations with advanced technologies from over 100K years old, being open to new cultures and ideas, how travel can change your life and fuel a sense of self-discovery, and how perspective truly creates your reality. Let’s take a trip!

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Any idea can have merit and all voices matter. Even if they seem far-fetched, there is SO much that we don’t know. So, even a small seed or essence of a seemingly hair-brained idea could have merit to consider. It might not solve the whole puzzle, but it could get you from “s” to “t” and that might make a world of difference to the bigger answer. Plus, by shutting down certain ideas, we shut down creativity and imagination in general, which is what we need to continue to evolve and grow as humans.
Your perspective projects your reality onto whatever you are looking at and experiencing. And if you aren’t willing to open up your perspective to new ideas and thoughts, then you kind of become stagnant as you are simply forcing any new info into your already existing construct. What if you could allow some curiosity and openness to have a dialogue that stretches your imagination and opens up new possibilities that you never thought could exist? And when you realize that something different could exist...now what is possible for your life and for society?
Half the fun of life is going on your own journey of discovery. Don’t just take the stories from others as your own, go do the things that excite you and create your own viewpoint and questions and answers! And then continue to have conversations with other people who are doing the same to exponentially expand the world’s ideas and concepts.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[1:20] A two-week tour of Egypt
[2:20] Ancient technologies that created the Pyramids that are more advanced than what we can recreate today
[5:00] How old are the pyramids?
[7:00] Are we really the only advanced civilization that existed in the last 65 Billion years?
[12:00] All ideas have merit
[20:00] Power of your perspective as a projection of your reality
[26:00] When does the majority become the majority?
[29:00] Human ego + hierarchical evolution
[34:00] What made Egypt life-changing?
[36:30] Egyptian culture
[39:00] What is “freedom” really?
[51:30] Dying before you get the answers you want
[52:30] How to support alternative research?
[55:00] Rachel’s an Aunt + alternative ways of raising your kids
[1:00:00] Contact Rachel with any questions about Egypt via IG @rachel.bellotti

Thursday Feb 13, 2020

BE A FREAK: DO WHAT NO ONE ELSE IS DOING S3|E6

Thursday Feb 13, 2020

Today, we talk to Margaret Bienert - photographer, videographer, harp player, co-founder of Marginal Creative in LA and A Pretty Cool Hotel Tour youtube series, and super creative human - about coming from a pretty conservative, religious upbringing, and eventually challenging her “rules”, moving to LA, and finding a passion for creating and doing things different from the world around her. Plus, because it’s Valentine’s Day, we chat candidly about losing your identity in a relationship, discovering your partner has Autism, learning to not care what outsiders think about your love life, and allowing yourself and your partner to be the freaks that you are!

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Death, etc by Faux Margaux
Margaret’s Blog
Catfish
Tibby Wells on the Bachelor in Paradise
Lana Del Rey
A Pretty Cool Hotel Tour by Margaret + Corey
John Krakauer - Under the Banner of Heaven
Marginal Creative by Margaret + Corey
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Sometimes we meet people who we look up to and have placed on a pedestal and we realize that they too are just people. And we ALL have the ability to try things, to find that thing that feels like it might be our thing - a passion, a strength, a pull, a curiosity, a dream, a hope, an idea - and give it our best shot and see what happens. Each one of our “idols” and “heros” were just like us wondering if they should give it a shot before they became “something bigger”, so why not give it a try?
Learn how to not be afraid of doing something that you think might sound crazy or stupid so that you can innovate and create things that no one has seen before. Many people aren’t going to understand right away and that is actually ok. Eventually, people may catch up and catch on - or maybe they won’t - but don’t wait to try things and do it your way just because you are afraid of what others will think. Life is WAY too short.
It can be really helpful to have people in your life who challenge you to see who you want to be and what you want out of life in a loving way, whether that’s a partner or therapist or friend or family or co-worker. Allowing people the chance to get uncomfortable in finding their own answers and not giving them their answers is a huge gift that allows layers to fall off and unlocks an ability to truly live. It can be really uncomfortable to trust this process (as the challenger and the challenged), but if you can get past the uncertainty and fear and really dig deep, there is unmatched magic that exists for each of us.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[3:00] Being an emo kid
[9:00] Bachelor recap
[13:00] Introducing Margaret!
[19:00] I only saw myself as a wife + mom
[24:00] The Lana Del Rey effect...what if I try things
[28:00] NOT doing what everyone else is doing
[35:00] Realizing the world is different than we were told it would look
[55:00] Having a partner who challenges me to be me
[1:06:00] Fear of identity being associated with your partner
[1:08:00] Having a husband with Autism
[1:10:00] Realizing you aren’t responsible for who your partner is or what they do
[1:19:00] What to do when other people aren’t into you?
[1:21:00] What people should know about Autism
[1:23:00] An inability to be fake
[1:31:00] Ghosts and haunted hotels
[1:37:00] What the hell is A Pretty Cool Hotel Tour youtube series?
[1:46:20] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:29:30] Contact Margaret via IG @aprettycoolgirl or @marginalcreative and check out her youtube series @aprettycoolhoteltour

Friday Feb 07, 2020

THE TRUST MUSCLE: STEPPING INTO YOUR FULLNESS S3|E5

Friday Feb 07, 2020

Today, we continue with PART 2 of our conversation with Judy Dejno, Partner at THRIVE - a human development company, Mindset Coach (she’s actually Rachel’s life coach), and all-around superb human. In this conversation, we unpack TRUST and everything that comes with it - from lack of trust to micro-doses of trust, to recommitting to trust, and what happens when you stay too long in the space of no trust, and everything in between. This episode contains the seeds of true transformation by inviting us to step into the fullness of who we are - through TRUST. Trust in ourselves, trust in our failures, trust in life. AND chats about how the heck you actually do it in your own way. Enjoy!

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

THRIVE - a human development company
THRIVE Pro Skills Training Program (understanding you + how to own your value)
THRIVE Influencer Training Program (how to own your influence in your life + in the world)
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

When what society or external influences or what you think you “should” be doing doesn’t feel right, take those feelings seriously and give yourself the space to ask yourself what WOULD feel right for you? From a place of love + personal responsibility we always have an invitation to make a choice that feels in alignment with who we want to be and do it in a way that comes from love + kindness, truly owning our path vs creating a victim mentality against society/shoulds/expectations or defiantly + defensively choosing or making the thing we don’t want “bad”. Instead, it comes from a place of empowerment + honoring your inner guidance without dishonoring other choices that exist around you. Sometimes easier said than done. :)
There are so many more options other than just muscling through something that doesn’t feel right OR leaving. We could also choose to live intentionally within the parameters that exist, taking what currently exists and tweaking an aspect of it so it feels more right for us, finding possibilities + opportunities that would make staying a yes and empowering ourselves to create those experiences for ourselves or ask for support in making them a reality.
Life is a collection of data points that slowly guide you towards where you are supposed to be. Each experience, each attempt, each avoidance, each leap, each decision or non-decision is not good or bad, it’s just new data to take in and decide what you want to do with it in your life now. And each moment gives you more data (internal + external) to consider and make another choice that gives you more data, etc. So, just keep collecting data and paying attention to what it is telling you and adjust accordingly - to what feels right for you.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[6:30] Acknowledging self-doubt
[8:00] NOT finishing college + being a successful adult
[11:30] What we see isn’t always what’s real
[13:00] Learning to truly enjoy learning
[21:00] Making decisions that are NOT in alignment with yourself
[24:00] Life as a collection of data points
[26:00] TRUST muscle
[36:00] Learning to pay attention to yourself vs living externally
[48:00] Patience
[50:00] Experiencing a lack of trust
[57:00] Trust is an intentional practice + commitment
[1:00:00] How do you live your TRUE NORTH?
[1:29:30] Contact Judy via email at judy@thrivehdc.com or check out upcoming THRIVE programs at THRIVEhdc.com

Friday Jan 31, 2020

INTENTION SETTING: CONNECTING WITH THE ESSENCE OF WHAT YOU WANT (LIVE WORKSHOP)

Friday Jan 31, 2020

Today, we are trying something new - we have recorded an episode of an actual INTENTION SETTING workshop, in real-time so that you guys can follow along with us and experience the magic of intention setting from the comfort of your own home. We have found intention setting to be a total game-changer in creating powerful change for us and so we wanted to offer it to YOU as we start this new year (and new decade)! We bring on Judy Dejno, Partner at THRIVE - a human development company, Mindset Coach (she’s actually Rachel’s life coach), and all-around superb human to co-facilitate this impactful workshop with our very own, Rachel. So, find a comfortable + quiet space, print out the intention setting worksheet, grab your favorite drink, put on some gentle background music, maybe grab a few friends if you want to experience this alongside others, and get ready to connect inward so that you can rock the year + decade ahead!

*note: this episode includes explicit language appropriate for those ages 16+

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Cacao
THRIVE - a human development company
THRIVE Pro Skills Training Program (understanding you + how to own your value)
THRIVE Influencer Training Program (how to own your influence in your life + in the world)
Intention Setting Workshop (link to PDF)
Rainbow Moonstone
Black Kyanite
Astrophyllite
Music from: https://www.jukedeck.com/

3 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Intention setting can be a beautiful compliment to goal-setting + new year’s resolutions. Intention setting creates agility and is a centering point (or rudder) that reconnects you to the essence of what you want to experience now and moving forward. This can be helpful to get clear on who you want to be, and also when specific goals or desires go awry, or when life happens and throws wrenches, or unexpected opportunities show up, we have something to come back to and check in with on how we want to proceed in a way that aligns with who we set out to be. It can also be a stand-alone practice that is used daily or ad hoc, as inspired.
Experiencing things in a group can be a really powerful way of being witnessed, seen, and heard while you share what is happening on the inside. Hearing your own self-talk through your experience in front of witnesses can unlock new insights as you are forced to put words to all that is swirling inside you - sometimes you hear yourself for the first time and then have more tangible evidence of what is going on inside so that you can choose what you want to do with it. And on the flip, being a witness to others is just as powerful - to see and hear another point of view is a way to expand your own views and learn new approaches to life and living and processing being human.
When we attach happiness, or any other desired state, ONLY to the end-result or accomplishment of a goal (that may or may not actually give us what we think it will), we lose the ability to experience that desired state right now. We hold the desired state hostage. We delay our ability to experience what we want in the present moment because it is tied to, and contingent upon, a specific set of circumstances that is largely out of our control. So, what if we invite yourselves to decouple the thing we want to do/have from how we want to experience/feel/be? What if we invite ourselves to see the two as complementary elements and allow ourselves to experience the thing we want NOW, alongside (and regardless of) the goals we are going after? We actually don’t have to wait for the specific set of external circumstances to show up for us to experience the feelings we want to feel today.

TIME-STAMPED SHOW NOTES:

[3:00] Growing up as a “harbor rat” on a boat on Lake Michigan
[8:00] Developing a healthy respect for water
[14:00] Trust muscle
[16:00] Importance of crying
[18:00] Introducing Judy!
[26:00] BEGIN the intention setting workshop here

[1:29:30] Contact Judy via email at judy@thrivehdc.com or check out upcoming THRIVE programs at THRIVEhdc.com